08 June 2010

An Altar in the World: Intro - Chpt. 3

Barbara Brown Taylor begins the introduction to her book, An Altar in the World by citing the popular line, “I am spiritual but not religious.” Personally, I was hooked right in at that point, since that phrase is so often given to me as an offering by those who don’t attend church. Like the author, I’m not entirely sure if this is meant as an excuse, an indictment, or an invitation.

A couple months ago Jieun and I brought together two couples, both of whom were well known and loved by us but completely unknown to each other. When couple A discovered that both members of couple B work for Hallmark Cards, there was an immediate conversation about whether or not and how often Hallmark cards were purchased by couple A. Sometimes I feel like this is what is going on when I tell people I’m introduced to that I’m a priest. “Oh,” they say, “I don’t go to church (I don’t buy Hallmark cards), I’m spiritual but not religious (but I think they’re really great).” Probably there’s more going on here, but that might be some of it.

My original intention with this book study was to pair a real time discussion with an online conversation. Thus I would report here on the blog the contents and interesting questions raised in real time for the benefit of those participating online. It turns out that people are either really busy, unavailable for three weekends in a row, or too polite to take someone else’s spot, because nobody is participating in real time. So instead of reporting online, I’m just offering a bit of commentary and a few of my own thoughts. Hopefully this will spur some comments and we can all share a few reflections.

Taylor’s book is explicitly a book about how to be both spiritual and religious, whether or not you go to church, subscribe to a particular belief set, or believe in a specific creed. The introduction and first three chapters really set up the book and establish her pattern. I particularly enjoyed the second chapter, “The Practice of Paying Attention”. In fact, I found myself trying out the author’s suggestion for grocery store checkout lines and was startled to learn that I never do make eye contact with the checkers. I’m always polite, and was remembering that politeness as being a connection, but when I actually made a connection it was a completely different feeling. This experience in and of itself was pretty interesting, but Taylor connects it to the concept of reverence. This is reverence, she claims, not simply bending a knee towards the altar, but really paying attention to the people around you—recognizing them as fellow creatures.

Chapter three, on Incarnation, ought to be a central chapter for Christians, as it addresses one of the very core doctrines of our faith. I wonder how you found this chapter? Did it clarify anything for you, or perhaps grant an additional insight into how incarnation affects our unique outlook on God? I’m curious as to what you all think.

OK, let’s get this started. Post a comment, ask a question, share a thought. Let us see if this distributed-network-book-study thing will work.

9 comments:

  1. Ok, so I just finished chapter 2 today at lunch... bear with me as I am a bit scared to talk about my thoughts and feelings for fear they are "wrong" or it's not what others got out of it.

    Here is what hits me at this point... I feel a sense of responsibility to my children to teach them the "awesomeness" of things like God, earth, "shooting stars" like she talked about, and about the respect of other people. She mentioned her dad and how he had taught her so much ... the shooting star thing comes to mind (as I don't have the book right here in front of me). I feel almost stressed to raise polite, aware, positive, connected children that make good choices, do the right thing, and enjoy the "awe" of the world.

    Scares the crap out of me.

    That's all for now, I'll be back.

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  2. Thanks for kicking this off Ben & Erin ! I'm in, just a bit behind, need to get book. I'm also trying to learn about how to blog. Think I've got the basics down tonight, so I'm hot to trot.
    Your comments and observations reminded me of a practice of the Jesuit brothers, "seeing God in everything" Incarnation ? Also the "eye contact " thing is interesting . I'm remembering your discussion ,Ben, about the eyes being the window to the soul. By making eye contact we not only reverence an other but also allow the other earthling to see into our soul, a soul met in God. What a wonderful world !! Mary M

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  3. Ok, chapter 3, incarnation.

    Body. Flesh. As a pharmacist and working in the medical field it is hard for me to look at the body without thinking and looking at they body "systems", the hypertension, diabetes, glaucoma, depression, fibromyalgia. Just skin? Wow, that is a hard one for me.

    Yes, the body is an amazing thing. It's also your biggest organ, did you know that? The fact I pushed out something the size of a watermelon out a hole the size of my nostril, ... well, that in an of itself is a freaking miracle. And I did it twice! lol

    I have always thought of religion/spirituality as my "soul"/thoughts/feelings but never really my skin. My "address". Never. Never. How interesting. Have you ever read the book "the five love languages"? One of my love languages is touch. I love to hug my kids. I love to kiss my husband. I love for him to touch me, ... rub my feet, or rub my back. But I've never thought of that as being a spiritual thing. Now I can grasp that a bit more.

    After having my children, one thing they tell you is to let your newborn feel your skin. Skin to skin. Amazing. As she says, letting a baby sleep in your arms can/will teach you more about life than 10 books combined. And I believe that.

    So, am I happy "in my skin"? No. Am I fat? Yes. Am I working on my "address" to become healthier? Yes. Is it the body God gave me? Yes. Should I be better about being ok in my own skin? Absolutely.

    Shaking hands at the "peace" during church has always been interesting to me. I was always taught to give a firm handshake, for a job interview or meeting new people and that is how I always do it. Many, however, don't shake hands that way. Even Father Ben doesn't (I've noticed) and I don't if it's a learned thing or something you are just born with. Maybe he's being more careful due to the elderly in the congregation. (don't mean to throw you under the bus there, Ben! ;) I suppose it could tell you one more thing about that person.

    I'm not going to comment on the whole "physical attraction" thing as I find that whole thing a bit odd but maybe I'm off my rocker there.

    Gotta go, will be back with more thoughts. I'm not done. :)

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  4. Ok, so I feel badly about calling out Ben on his handshake. Sorry Ben!!! YOu could call me out for not coming to church except for every so often....

    Prayer life... hmmm... that I can't really answer. I don't hang laundry, I don't stand naked in front of a mirror.... perhaps I'm not doing it right.

    Ok, am I the only one that feels very simplistic and I'm not "deep" enough to "get it"???

    Ben, give me feedback, no one else is posting yet.

    :D

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  5. Ok, I want to add one more thing and it's just because I need to add it. Today a wife came in to the store and said her husband had died back in May. He was much too young. He had served in Vietnam, suffered from PTSD, was a cop for 30 years (high stress), was in a head-on collision in 2000 and suffered much pain from that, then was dealing with some skin issues too. He was scheduled for a carotid/heart procedure/scan on a Monday, was in the store the Friday before to get some pre-meds, and died over the weekend of a heart attack. On one hand she said how he was too young, but on the other hand she said how it was a "wasted life" due to all his stresses, not feeling well, and pain. Makes me more than sad, and I'm quite distraught over it. Hit us all at work very hard as we saw him just a couple days before... He also had a family history of men dying much too young. It sends home the message to me that life is so very short and so very fragile. Brought me to tears today at work and reiterated the fact to me that I need a new career...

    Oh, and per the chapter, yes, I'm afraid of dying.

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  6. Erin,

    Thanks for all the wonderful comments. I'll try to remember to shake your hand harder next time you bother to show up for church ;-)

    I liked Taylor's chapter on incarnation a lot. This despite my being a little afraid any time a woman one or two generations a head of me starts to talk about the holiness of her body. This fear is my fault, I know, and I make no assertion that these bodies aren't holy, only that they are profoundly alien to me and I'm not sure what to do when people use breasts and God in the same sentence.

    One reason I love the idea of bodies as holy is precisely this issue you have pointed out Erin: our bodies are not only amazing, miraculous, and a source of inspiration, but also on occasion broken, painful, and a source of shame. Blame it on our culture or blame it on our narcissism, but I know very few people, even people who are objectively beautiful, that are happy with the way they look. Our bodies are a temple of the Lord; our bodies make us miserable. How are these two things to be reconciled?

    I don't have a good answer, and it seems to me that Taylor only suggests some things to try, but here is one idea: I don't think that saying that our bodies are a temple of the Lord was intended to make us feel badly about how our bodies look/work/survive. After all, the people Jesus said that to were certainly closer to starvation than I have ever been. Was Jesus blaming them for letting God's temple fall into disrepair? I doubt it.

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  7. ok, so my body is miraculous!! Absolutely. A co-worker and I also in the medical field talk about it all the time, she used to be an RN. If people really realized all the systems, nerves, veins, artieries, pressures etc need to work together to keep us going you would be amazed, from a medical standpoint, not just a laymans stand-point.

    My body is broken all of the time. And I struggle with this. I suffer from fibromyalgia which is a very non-descript often very painful "syndrome". I hurt all the time. just to touch my skin hurts. It's horrible and I often question why I was the one to get such a thing but alas, it is what it is. I doctor for it and at one point was taking 17 pills morning and evening. I find some frustration with my skin/body/address that I deal with this on a daily basis...

    Yet, it's all I have. I'm trying to take care of it more and more these days. It's hard.

    How ARE these two things to be reconciled? Stand in front of a mirror naked? I may just barf up my breakfast instead of finding inspiration.

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  8. ok, Ben, where do I comment on Ch. 4?

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  9. OK--like Mary I am figuring out this blog thing as I go. I posted my comment to Say Hi...Oh well, here it is again:

    Chapter 3--I think I get it, then I think I don't. One thing though, I received the following in an e-mail today and it came to mind as I read about the embodiment of God
    "Look back and thank God.
    Look forward and trust God.
    Look around and serve God.
    Look within and find God!"

    Look within and find God-our body is a temple-our body houses our spiritual being. Look within to find a person's true beauty. Yet we can get hung up on the temple; shell--ours and others. I have to keep working on this.

    I finished Chapter 4 and am well into Chapter 5-- How many of us are comfortable with stepping outside our comfort zone--reaching out to a stranger to say hello much less choose the path not taken? Certainly, not me. Hanging in my office at work is a photograph of a narrow path meandering through the trees with a floor of green grass and wildflowers. I chose it because the path has no end; reminding me of Robert Frost's poem The Road Not Taken. The idea of choosing the road less traveled and it making all the difference. It is a reminder to take that step every once in a while. "Look forward and trust God."

    Erin, I was saddened reading about the sudden death of the pharmacy customer. You are right, life can be short and fragile. Perhaps a reminder to take that road less traveled occasionally, tell our family how much we love them, going to sleep knowing we tried to do the best we could, and if we fail, then we try again tomorrow. (Hopefully, not beating ourselves up too much in the process--yeah, right!)Was it Shakespeare that said to error is human and to forgive is devine?

    Speaking of sleep, it's time to say good night.

    Jan Barrett

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